People use marijuana for a multitude of reasons; better sleep, eating, pain management, or just recreational use. However, not everyone supports the use of this plant.
As legalization is sweeping the nation, more couples are seeking marijuana for better intimacy, or even to diffuse high-pressure situations or arguments.
In other cases, one partner just flat out prefers to use cannabis to help themselves get through the days. So, how do you deal with a spouse or partner not accepting your cannabis use? We’re breaking it down for you here.
1. Take Time to Understand Your Partner
First of all, you need to take time to understand why your partner isn’t accepting of your marijuana use. Are they okay with your usage, but maybe it’s not legal in your state, and they don’t want you to break the law?
Are there children involved? Maybe it zaps your motivation? Most of the time, there will be a legitimate reason and conversation that needs to happen. When you do, their distaste may open your eyes to better understanding their standpoint, which you never did before. Learning how to communicate with your partner is crucial.
So take the time to ask important questions like
- Does my marijuana usage bother you?
- How do you view my marijuana habits?
- What would help your concerns?
- What would you like to see my relationship with marijuana be?
2. Stay Honest
This belongs toward the top of the list because it is so important. There are so many things to consider, and everyone’s situations are different. Is this a new relationship?
Don’t hide your smoking habits. It can be scary not knowing how a new partner will react, but it’s better to be upfront from the get-go. Be honest with yourself and your partner about why you’re using and how you see it better yourself. Strong communication is key in any relationship, and this is no different.
Remaining closed off, lying, or withholding information is a great way to create more conflict and further cause a divide between you and your partner.
3. Show Them You’re More Than Cannabis
It’s important to have a life outside of marijuana both for your sake and your partner’s. Show your partner that it does not consume you.
Participate in activities with your partner that will show them it doesn’t kill your motivation, and you can still go do things together and have just as much fun. This can be an important part of soothing your partner’s worrying mind.
Perhaps your partner’s concern comes from your overuse. Consider reducing use or sticking to the amount appropriate for a serving. Find more information regarding measurements on Veriheal.
4. Explain Why You Like It
Other times, simply understanding what it is that you like about cannabis can be enough to put your partner’s concerns at ease. Rather than lecturing them about why it’s a good thing to use cannabis, stick to explaining why it’s good for you specifically.
If consuming cannabis makes you feel better when you’re working out, meditating, or reading, explain that. But don’t steamroll over them in this conversation if they counter your arguments with reasons they’re not a fan of you using cannabis even for those reasons.
5. Listen and Learn
Sometimes, seeing things from an outsider’s perspective will show you that you do in fact need to cut back, despite not wanting to. It’s easy to get stuck in your own head, thinking everything you do is right, but having a partner who cares and provides feedback is a great tool to have.
While you don’t need to give up what you love because of your partner’s standpoint, a conversation is key. As marijuana becomes legal in many states, the differences between couples are becoming more common – especially in regard to recreational drug use.
You’re not alone, but butting heads should be used as an opportunity to understand the difference in viewpoints. Not the statistics, political stances, or medical facts, but just the differing viewpoints.
This issue should not be against their stance. Rather, it is a problem that should be worked on together, as in any problem a relationship faces. Whether it be only smoking away from home or keeping your tools in a designated area away from your partner, there is most likely an adaptable solution that will work for your needs – both of your needs.